The Pros and Cons for Couples in Introducing a Sex Machine into the Bedroom

Guest Blogger: Tigerlily

A sex machine—also known as a fucking machine—is the ultimate sex toy: an automatic thrusting dildo that never gets tired. As a couple, it’s a brilliant way to take your play time to the next level, opening up a huge range of possibilities with a robotic cock. 

Depending on which model you buy, they’ll have adjustable speeds, built-in patterns, interchangeable accessories, and maybe even an accompanying app. 

But if you still need convincing, here are all the benefits it can bring you—along with a few drawbacks to consider.

Who Am I and Why Should You Trust Me?

I’m Tigerlily, and I run SexToyDB.com. My passion is technology—whether that’s the best fucking machines that can be programmed with a smartphone, to automated masturbators that sync up to on-screen video action, or remote control toys for long-distance partners. It’s never been a more exciting time to be horny and let a machine take over the task of pleasuring you. 

The Benefits of a Sex Machine

Enhanced Pleasure and Variety

A fucking machine can enhance your sexual experiences and provide all new types of stimulation; it might even help you discover positions you hadn’t tried before or didn’t know you’d enjoy so much. While a sex machine broadly tries to emulate the act of penetration, it also offers a different type of stimulation that’s difficult to achieve manually or with another human. After all, a human cock generally isn’t measured in torque thrusting power and RPMs. 

Especially for guys, the type of stimulation that can achieve the hallowed anal P-gasm is a lot easier with a machine to help.

Safe Experimentation

Ever fantasized about a threesome with another guy, but acknowledged the reality might be incredibly awkward and potentially dangerous? We’ve all been there. 

A fucking machine means you can explore your fantasy in a completely safe environment. “Spit roast” or “DP” are both possible with a machine lover, and with such a huge range of accessories, you’re sure to find your exact preference of cock. If you have a favorite dildo already, chances are it can be attached to a sex machine easily.

Hands-Free Fun

With a sex machine to help, one partner can enjoy penetrative stimulation without needing to hold the device, allowing both partners to focus on other forms of intimacy, such as touching, kissing, or oral sex. 

One thing to look out for when choosing a machine for this sort of sexual experimentation is how adjustable the positions are. Cheaper machines lie flat on the floor or bed with no angle or height adjustment. Others like the HiSmith Premium or Lovense Sex Machine have around 40cm of height range, with independent adjustment at the front and rear legs to achieve some pretty extreme angles—making all kinds of positions possible.

Some HiSmith machines can even be used completely vertically (though you’ll need to cover the sensitive mechanisms so they don’t get wet).

Role Reversal and Submission

A strap-on is a fun way for couples to reverse the usual playtime and a great starting point for couples to explore anal fun. But some will find they’re not that good at it (thrusting your hips can be quite hard!), or just don’t enjoy the one-sided play style.

You might prefer for him to be penetrated while your hands are free to wander and tease them in other ways; or perhaps you’d like him to you at the same time with his tongue. A fucking machine is great for this: let it handle the penetration. Some machines even offer a smartphone app, so you can stay in control to reward, punish, or tease! 

It Never Gets Tired

While nothing compares to actual sex, if you’re no longer able to keep going as long as you’d like to pleasure your partner, a sex machine is your perfect wingman. Let the machine take over while you have a break, or move to other forms of stimulation.

Sexual Autonomy and Fulfilling Needs

Using a sex machine can help you understand your own sexual responses better, building confidence to express your desires and preferences within your relationship. 

If your sexual relationship is imbalanced, with one of your wanting more sex than the other is able or willing to provide, a sex machine is a perfectly safe and healthy way to fulfill those needs without leaving the confines of your bedroom. It’s natural for the sexual drive of a couple to not be in sync at all times, but that doesn’t mean you have to just not be fulfilled. While some partners might be okay with you looking elsewhere to fulfill that need, others will be better served by a sex machine—a tool that’s free of emotional bonds (and STD risks!)

The Drawbacks

Insecurity

For some guys, the very thought of their partner using a dildo can be too much to bear. If you recognize that in your relationship, you’ll definitely need to work on the basics before even considering a machine lover to enhance your playtime. Your partner may feel inadequate, so it’s important to discuss the benefits it’ll bring to your relationship, and that he treat the machine as a wingman, not a competitor. 

Remember: communication and honesty is the key to any relationship, and even more so when it comes to sex. Don’t buy a fucking machine and try to keep it hidden or secret from your partner; it’s possible they’ll consider it the equivalent of cheating. It’s important to make sure both of you are on board with the idea.

Hiding It

We aren’t all lucky enough to have a spare room or basement we can turn into a sex room, and it’s a lot harder to hide a 10kg sex machine, even if it can be deconstructed. The HiSmith Premium collapses to the size of a small, rectangular duffel bag, which can then fit under your bed or at the bottom of your closet. Assuming you already have somewhere to keep your dildos away from prying eyes, it should be a problem you can overcome.

Of course, while it only takes 5-10 minutes to reconstruct, you might want to leave it up for quick use at any time—and that’ll be a lot harder to hide.

Noise

Noise levels in the bedroom from a fucking machine can vary greatly, but not for the reasons you’d think. The reciprocating motor that drives the thrusting is usually quiet as long it’s kept lubricated; it could easily be masked by some background music. 

However, depending on how you’ve positioned and secured your machine, and how tightly you clench during the thrusts, you may find the machine rocks back and forth. If you live in an apartment block, your downstairs neighbors will hear something not unlike rigorous sex if you’ve placed it on the floor. Using it on the bed can help mitigate this, but you‘ll also need to consider weighing down the legs with sandbags, or securing the feet to a piece of wooden board.

But your biggest worry should be your screams as you orgasm in ways you never thought possible (I’m deadly serious; this is an actual problem). Now might be a good time to invest in a decent ball gag.

Over-reliance on a Machine

Nothing compares to a machine fuck—just as nothing compares to a real cock. But it’s possible you’ll prefer the machine, and you’ll need to be conscious of that. If you suspect that’s the case, make an effort to reconnect with your partner. Put away the machine and schedule some couple time!

Should You Get a Sex Machine?

A quality sex machine is going to set you back around $500 to $1000, which is a sizeable investment. However, a decent one will last a decade or more when maintained correctly. But isn’t it curious that we wouldn’t think twice about spending that much on a TV, yet we shudder at the thought of spending it to improve our sex lives? That’ll be our deeply ingrained societal taboos around sex or adult “toys”. Perhaps we should start calling them sexual wellness tools instead. When it comes to a robotic thrusting machine, the sense of shame runs even deeper—what sort of sexual deviant needs a robotic cock?! 

As a couple, it goes without saying that you’ll both need to be on board with the idea. A sex machine generally isn’t considered a “my first sex toy” that you can whip out like a pair of handcuffs and be all “lets try this tonight babe”. 

But if you do decide your relationship can handle a sex machine, I promise you won’t be disappointed by the limitless opportunities it brings to the bedroom.