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  • The Cross-Booty

    The Cross-Booty

    Have you ever dreamed of being penetrated perpendicularly? Heh. Well, now’s your chance with the cross-booty position. So, this one’s an interesting one –  feedback says they either love this position or absolutely hate it with no in-between. This position is missionary with a slight twist, literally. Your bodies should look like an “X” when done properly.

     

    So, let’s jump into the reason why you’ve found this article: how do you do the cross-booty sex position? What are the pros and cons, are there any variations? As always, we got you on the juicy tips.

     

    This picture portrays what the sex position

     

    How to do “The Cross-Booty” sex position:

    • The receiver lays on their back with their legs flat on the bed, slightly spread. The giver then positions themselves on top, but perpendicular to the receiver’s body, forming what should look like an “X”. Keeping their pelvis in place, the giver thrusts in up and down motions.

    What are the pros of this position?

    • Vaginal stimulation.
    • The perpendicular position hitting your vaginal walls from a different angle can create sensations you haven’t felt before.

    What are the cons of this position?

    • Can feel awkward.
    • Can be hard to maintain this position at first until you get used to the change in angle.

    What are some variations for this position?

    • Instead of laying flat on your back, the receiver can instead lay face flat to allow anal penetration (using a pillow to hike up the pelvis can allow even deeper penetration).

    What are some tips for this position?

    • Using a pillow under the hips or lower back can help hike up the pelvis, allowing for deeper penetration.
    • The giver can rest on their elbows to support their body-weight.

     

    This position can definitely be an awkward one, but if done correctly, it’ll hit your spots in ways that you’re probably not used to. Some find it pleasurable, others hate it, there seem to be no in between! Spill the tea and let us know how it went if you decided to try it.

  • The Chairman

    We heard you’ve been looking to spice up your sex life. You came across “The Amazon“, but acrobatics and sex don’t really go hand in hand for you – which is fair. Well, you’ve come across the right position… This one is simple, but it truly hits the spot – heh.

    Let’s begin – our guide to “The Chairman” sex position should give you all the information you need to know; what are its pros and cons? Are there any variations to this position?

    This graphic illustrates what

    How to do “The Chairman” Sex Position:

    The position is exactly what it sounds like – the penis or strap-on owner sits on the chair or side of the bed. The giver will then position themselves on top, facing away from the receiver, with the receiver’s leg in between their own. The giver will then squat or bounce up and down, allowing vaginal or anal penetration.

    What Are The Pros of “The Chairman” Position?

    • Hands are free, allowing for stimulation of erogenous zones; clitoris, nipples, balls.
    • Allows for both g-spot and clitorial stimulation.
    • The ability to incorporate toys easily.
    • You can easily modify the position to different angles and movements to bring new sensations.
    • Doesn’t require much flexibility.
    • Allows for deep vaginal or anal penetration.

    What are the cons of “The Chairman” Position?

    • May require a level of stamina and strength from the giver to maintain the position for extended periods of time.

    What are some variations to “The Chairman” Position?

    • Experiment with the receivers legs in between the givers legs vs. outside of the givers legs.
    • The giver can sit at at different angles to allow different sensations.
    • The receiver can lay down completely, instead of being in a sitting position.

    What are some tips?

    • The receiver can support the giver in maintaining the position by holding their helps and helping them rock into motion.
    • The giver can change the way they ride by squatting up and down, bouncing, rocking their pelvis back and forth or grinding.

     

  • The Lotus

    I’m sure you’ve heard time and time again that sex doesn’t have to be all about prioritizing an orgasm… sometimes it’s important to be extremely present with your partner’s body and pleasure, feeling the depths of your connection as you’re engaging in the most deep, passionate and intimate sex.

     

    This position is all about tantric sex – the idea of merging the physical with the non-physical, almost allowing yourselves to feel like you’re traveling through time and space into different dimensions and realities. It’s about the bond and closeness, and expanding out your pleasure for extended periods of time to truly build into that space – the lotus position can bring you there.

     

    Ok – it resonates. What’s next? Well, our guide to “The Lotus” position should give you all the information you need to know, from learning how to do it, to pros, cons and variations of the position.

    This graphic illustrates what the lotus sex position looks like in actuality, and it also conveys how to do it. The partner with a strap-on or penis will be seated, positioning themselves on the bottom, while partner B sits facing them, with their legs criss-crossed over their partners. They will then insert themselves slowly to focus on a more intimate rocking and grinding motion.

    How to do “The Lotus” Sex Position:

    The penis or strap-on owner sits, the giver then seats themselves on top of them facing the receiver. You intertwine your legs, almost criss-crossed as seen in the graphic. The giver then slowly inserts the penis or strap-on, and allows penetration by focusing on a more intimate rocking/grinding motion.

    What are the pros?

    • This position is all about prioritizing intimate, passionate, slow sex.
    • The position allows for physical closeness with your partner.
    • Eye-gazing.
    • If the giver leans back, they can initiate g-spot stimulation.
    • Hands are free for stimulating erogenous zones; nipples, clitoris, etc.
    • The different variations can allow you to explore anal play.

    What are the cons?

    • Can require a certain level of flexibility to maintain the position for extended periods of time.
    • You may struggle to hold the weight of the other depending on how you’re seated, differences in body size, etc.

    What are the variations?

    • Instead of having your legs intertwined, the giver can instead have their legs draped over the receivers shoulders.
    • Instead of being seated on a bed, this position can instead be done on a chair with feet touching the floor. This would allow you both to be supported from the ground-up.

     

    How do you feel about tantric sex? Do you engage in it with your partner? How has it affected your relationship and your sex life? What other positions do you enjoy that allow you to be in the same space? Share with our community!

  • The Pirates Bounty

    Well, the word on the street is that if you haven’t given The Pirates Bounty a shot. You’re absolutely, inexplicably missing out. It literally feels so good that it’s worth working on your level of flexibility just to be able to get into this position with your partner. The Pirates Bounty is the epitome of deep penetration. An absolute fan favorite – bound to leaving you dripping and begging for more.

     

    Let’s get into it – how do you do the pirates bounty sex position? What are its pros and cons, and are there any variations? Our guide on “The Pirates Bounty” position should tell you everything you need to know to invigorate your sensations to the next level.

    This graphic illustrates what the

    How to do “The Pirates Bounty” sex position:

    The receiver lays flat on their back, the giver then climbs over, placing one of the receivers legs over their shoulder, leaving the other leg spread out – eagle style. The receiver’s other leg should essentially be spread to its side, either in between the givers legs or wrapped around one of them. This allows the giver to then insert themselves anally or vaginally.

    What are the pros of this position?

    • This position allows for deep anal or vaginal penetration.
    • The position allows you to easily explore anal play.
    • It allows for the use of toys to provide clitoral or nipple stimulation.
    • Hands free for stimulation of erogenous zones.

    What are the cons of this position?

    • The flexibility calls for a high level of flexibility from the receiver (but can easily be supported by the giver).

    What are the variations of this position?

    • Alternate between the leg that is lifted over the shoulder.
    • Instead of having the receiver’s leg be placed between the givers legs, the receiver can wrap their one leg around the givers leg instead.
    • Instead of placing one leg over the shoulder, the giver can instead hold the leg by the ankle, and you can take this to the next level by trying different angles if you’re flexible enough!

    What are some tips for this position?

    • The giver can support the receiver in maintaining position by pressing against their lifted leg.
    • Pillow to hike up receivers hips.
    • Hands free means you have the opportunity to do all kinds of kinky things! Into choking? Say less.

     

  • 8 Sex Positions To Try For Deeper Orgasms

    Let’s be real, we are all very obviously creatures of habit. We find ourselves repeating the same patterns, day after day with the same old routine… and you’re damn right that it feels good. The thing is, our brains desire to turn everything that we do into a routine to preserve energy, and while that’s great and all (thank you brain) – we don’t need to follow this narrative as our reality when it comes to the bedroom. Sure, you know which position is guaranteed to make you cum, but trying new sex positions can help keep things fresh and simultaneously help you discover new types of orgasms that completely change your perception on sex as a hole – deepening your connection with your partner outside the bounds of this reality.

     

    Okay… you’re convinced. But where do you start? Try these 8 sex positions to ignite the pleasure and get down to business:

     

    1. The “Amazon” Position

    This is a graphic that covers the sex position of the week called

     

    You might’ve been hearing about this one a lot lately, and yes, if you’re wondering – it is ALL the hype. This position is essentially missionary, reversed. Here’s how:

     

    How to do it: The person with a penis or strap-on lays on their back, and the person with the vagina (or anus) straddles or squats above them, allowing penetration. Once the giver has climbed on top, they can start riding the receiver by bouncing and bobbing up and down, rather than focusing on grinding.

     

    Why:

    • Eye-to-eye contact.
    • Power-play.
    • Nipple play.
    • Potential for mutual orgasm if the person on top is being stimulated to their preference (vaginal, clitoral, g-spot, nipple).
    • Allows for deep penetration.
    • The person on top can control the depth, speed, rhythm.

     

    1. The “Jackhammer” Position

    This is a graphic of what the jackhammer sex position looks like, with a text that covers how to reenact the position yourself. The receiver lays on their back, lifting their hips to raise their legs over their head. Once their butt is in the air, they can spread their legs or push them forward above their head. The giver stands above them, squatting and penetrating vaginally or anally.

     

    Well, this one might not be for the faint of heart, especially if you’ve never bent your body like this before.

     

    How to do it: To get into this position, the receiver lays on their back, lifting their hips, raising their legs back and over their head. The giver then positions themselves over the receiver, in a squatting motion and penetrates them either vaginally or anally.

     

    Why: 

    • Give your partner a good look at your “goods”.
    • Eye-contact depending on how you’re positioned.
    • Deep vaginal or anal penetration.
    • The giver can easily control the speed, depth and rhythm.
    • The angle allows you to get all the “hard-to-reach” spots.

     

    1. The “Lap Dance” Position

    This is a graphic portraying the lap dance position in action. Performed on a chair or seated position, the partner with a penis or strap on sits, while the receiver climbs on top and straddles/rides them.

     

    If you’re into that absolutely intoxicating, intimate, eye-gazing sex – this might be your cup of tea.

     

    How to do it: To get into the Lap Dance position, the receiving partner with a penis or strap-on is seated on a chair, the giving partner climbs on top, straddling their partner, allowing penetration by moving their hips and back forth in a grinding motion.

     

    Why: 

    • Deep eye-to-eye contact.
    • Intimacy with your partner.
    • The ability to easily make out.
    • Receiver’s hands are completely free for stimulation of erogenous areas; neck, head, face, nipples, clitoris, etc.

     

    1. The “Flat Iron” Position

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    A classic, yet still a beast of a position. The Flat Iron is essentially doggy style, but with a twist.

     

    How to do it: The receiver lies face down on their stomach, hiking up their pelvis. The giver climbs on top from the back, penetrating them vaginally or anally. The giver can support their weight by placing their hands on the receiver’s waist, back, or on the bed.

     

    Why:

    • Deep vaginal or anal penetration at varied intensities, depth and rhythm.
    • G-spot and a-spot stimulation.
    • This position is ideal for anyone concerned about their penis size.
    • Can give attention to erogenous zones.
    • Easy to make this more intimate if the giver occasionally leans closer into the receiver.

     

    1. The “Cross Booty” Position

    This picture portrays what the sex position

    This one’s an interesting one – feedback says you either hate it or you love it with no in-between.

     

    How to do it: This position is usually transitioned into from missionary, where the receiver lies flat on their back with their legs spread flat on the bed. The giver then slides their body over the receiver forming an X, and while keeping their pelvis in place, they thrust in up and down motions.

     

    Why: 

    • The perpendicular position can hit the vaginal walls differently than what you’re used to, giving you new sensations.
    • Hands are free for stimulation of erogenous zones.

     

    1. The “Chairman” Position

    This graphic illustrates what

    The chairman hits the spot, literally. Great for g-spot stimulation, and all the “hard-to-reach” areas.

     

    How to do it: The receiver seats themselves on the edge of the bed, or a chair. The giver then positions themselves on top, facing away, squatting or bouncing up and down allowing vaginal or anal penetration.

     

    Why:

    • Allows for g-spot and clit stimulation.
    • Deep anal and vaginal penetration.
    • Can incorporate toys easily.
    • Can be easily modified to experiment with different angles and movements.

     

    1. The “Lotus” Position

    This graphic illustrates what the lotus sex position looks like in actuality, and it also conveys how to do it. The partner with a strap-on or penis will be seated, positioning themselves on the bottom, while partner B sits facing them, with their legs criss-crossed over their partners. They will then insert themselves slowly to focus on a more intimate rocking and grinding motion.

    Nah, because this ones for the books… Face-to-face, eye-gazing and being so deep in intimacy and passion is beyond underrated. There’s something about that intense level of physical closeness with your partner that is irreplaceable – it’s the ultimate way to feel connected.

     

    How to do it: To get into this position, the person with a penis or strap-on will sit with their legs bent in front of them, the receiver will then climb on top, seating themselves facing their partner with their legs criss-crossed over

     

    Why:

    • Intimate, tantric, slow and passionate sex.
    • Leaning back can provide g-spot and a-spot stimulation.
    • Clit stimulation.
    • Eye-gazing.

     

    1. The “Pirates Bounty” Position

    This graphic illustrates what the

    This… This one. This one will leave you seeing stars. An absolute fan favorite.

     

    How to do it: The receiver lies flat, spreading their legs. The giver then positions themselves in between the receiver’s legs, pushing one to the side and the other placed over their shoulder. The giver can then penetrate vaginally or anally. For vulva-owners, this position is great for a-spot stimulation.

     

    Why:

    • Deep anal or vaginal penetration.
    • G-spot and a-spot stimulation – opportunity for different types of orgasms.
    • Allows for the use of toys to provide clit or nipple stimulation.
    • Hands free for stimulation of erogenous zones.

     

  • What are Grinder Sex Toys?

    Navigating the world of sex toys is like navigating through a candy store — the options are endless, and there’s something new every month! But sex doesn’t have to be complicated and neither do your sex toys, so if you’re here, you’ve likely just learned about Grinders and want more information. So, let’s dive right in.

     

    How many times have you stopped and looked at something in a store or online and questioned, who in the world is actually using something like that? With Grinders, we are taking back the primitive act of humping — something we were born knowing how to do, and adding some pizzazz.  These toys may seem simple in design, and you might even question how good can they really feel… but they have the potential to take your pleasure to a whole new level. In this article, we’ll cover the world of grinders and grinder rings — what they are, how they work, and why they’re worth considering if you’re looking to explore your sexual pleasure in a new and exciting way.

     

    So get comfortable and let’s dive in.

     

    What are Grinder Sex Toys?

    Grinders, also known as humping toys, are an exciting new-ish addition to the world of sexual pleasure. These toys are designed to provide stimulation to the genitals by rubbing on a textured surface or intermittently applying pressure to a vibrating toy. They typically consist of an ergonomic design that contours to your body and stimulates one area or your entire genitalia.

     

    While you could very well lay your toy out on a flat surface, a lot of people tend to use their grinder by strapping it onto a pillow  (or anything that is round and strap-able). This allows for the grinder to be easily straddled as it creates stability and curves into your body. Using a grinder as a humping toy can lead to more intense orgasms and heightened levels of pleasure, making it a popular choice for those who enjoy non-penetrative sex.

     

    …What About Grinder Rings?

    While grinders can easily be used in solo or partner play, a grinder ring is a sex toy designed for couples to use during intercourse. It is essentially a tool that is designed to be worn around the base of the penis, leaving the shaft of the penis exposed. Think a cock ring with pizzazz. The idea is that the wearer’s partner can grind their clitoris or labia onto the textured part of the ring, allowing the person to enjoy the sensation of grinding against each other during intercourse. The device may also have a vibrating component that can provide additional stimulation for both partners. Grinder rings can add dimension to sexual play between you and your partner, especially if you’re both interested in exploring new sensations together.

     

    Different Types of Grinders:

    Grinders are an amazing toy for exploring and experiencing what feels best without much thought. Basic grinders are designed to stimulate the exterior of your body, humping without insertion. However, we can bend the rules a bit. In this section, we’ll explore some of the most popular types of grinders and what makes them special.

     

    • Silicone Grinders: There is a whole world of body safe silicone based grinder and grinder rings that would blow your mind, endless intricate textures in different firmness’ with custom color combinations. Indie creators are even producing fantasy inspired dildos with imaginative designs ranging from mythical creatures to whimsical realism. Silicone designs can also consist of a grinder mat and ring all in one. Giving all the benefits of a grinder ring with the extended surface area of a wearable grinder.
    • Pillow Grinders: Pillow grinders are designed to be placed between the legs or against a flat surface for humping. They are typically made of soft, plush material and come in a variety of shapes and sizes. Pillow grinders may have a built-in vibrator or can be used with a separate vibrator for added stimulation.
    • Wearable Grinders: Wearable grinders can be worn like underwear for hands-free humping. These devices typically have a built-in vibrator and could be worn during intercourse. Wearable grinders come in a variety of styles, including thongs, briefs, and harnesses.
    • Handheld Grinders: Handheld grinders are a type of grinder that fit in the palm of your hand. These devices typically have a compact, discreet design and are easy to use for solo play or with a partner. Handheld grinders may have a built-in vibrator or be made of a soft textured material.
    • Strap-on Grinders: Strap-on grinders are a type of grinder that can be attached to a strap-on harness for humping. They would be worn with the ribbed material facing outward to provide pleasure to your partner. These devices typically have a flat base that can be secured to the harness and can come with a built-in vibrator for added stimulation. Strap-on grinders are a great option for couples looking to explore new sensations together.
    • Insertable Grinders: These can be any combination of the grinder styles listed above, but with an insertable element to provide you with internal and external stimulation. Some come large enough to mimic riding a full dildo, while providing an area to grind on as well. While others may have a smaller insertable and are more focused on the grinding and humping aspect of the toy.

    How to Choose the Right Grinder for Yourself:

    Choosing the right grinder is crucial for enhancing your experience. Here are some key factors to consider when choosing the right type of toy for yourself:

     

    ⦁ Size: When it comes to wearables or grinder rings, the size of the grinder is an important consideration. If the ring is too small or too tight, it can be uncomfortable or even painful to wear. On the other hand, if the ring is too big, it may not provide enough stimulation. Be sure to measure yourself or your partner to ensure that you choose the right size.

    ⦁ Material: Grinders and Grinder rings come in a variety of materials, including silicone, rubber, and metal. Each material has its own advantages and disadvantages, so it’s important to consider your needs and preferences. For example, silicone rings tend to be more comfortable and flexible, while metal rings are more durable and provide more intense stimulation.

    ⦁ Vibration: Some grinders vibrate, while others don’t vibrate at all. While all of these options are personal preference — you’re going to want to experiment with this one!

    ⦁ Texture: Some grinders come with textured or ribbed surfaces to enhance stimulation. Consider whether you or your partner prefer a more smooth or textured surface for maximum pleasure. Some people love texture, while others love a more smooth surface that mimics the tongue.

     

    So what type of Grinder or Grinder Ring should you get?

    Deciding between grinder and grinder rings can be a tough choice, but don’t worry – we’re here to help you figure out which one is right for you.

     

    First, let’s recap grinders. These toys are designed to be held between your legs or against a flat surface, allowing you to grind, thrust and hump against them for stimulation. They come in a variety of shapes, sizes and materials, as well as vibrational settings.

    On the other hand, grinder rings are designed for partner play. They feature a hole for the penis to slip into, allowing the partner with the vulva to grind against the ring for added pleasure while being penetrated –they too come with added features like vibration settings.

     

    So which one should you choose? Well, first decide on your experience — are you interested in the grinder for solo play, or a grinder ring for partner play? If you’re looking for a toy that you can use solo, a grinder will be your best friend. On the other hand, if you want a toy you can use with your partner, the grinder ring will be the most perfect fit. When it comes to shape, size, and material, a lot of people who first ease into this realm tend to choose the basic silicone grinder, which curves and contours to your body and by strapping to a pillow or folded up blanket. These do tend to be very textured, so keep that in mind, along with the fact that your choices for vibration options will be limited if you decide to go down this route (which is not a negative thing, btw). If you plan on exploring different materials, you’ll find that most of them come with vibrational settings, but they’re likely to be handheld, and options for a variety in texture will be limited.

     

    Ultimately, the best way to figure out which toy you should purchase is by reflecting on your current toy collection or preference — what kind of material do you enjoy the most? Textured or no texture? Vibration or no vibration? Handheld or hands-free?  Try out different options and see what feels best for your body — you’ll never know until you try! Something you thought you didn’t like might even catch you by surprise.

     

    Effectively Using a Grinder:

    Grinders add dimension to any sexual experience without much thought — just thrust as you were born to do, heh. That’s great and all, but where do you start? We’re here to help you get the most out of your grinder so the juice is worth the squeeze.

     

    ⦁ First things first, choose the perfect grinder for you — think size, shape, material and the overall experience you’re looking for… whether that’s solo or partner play. Then, get ready to dive into an experience like no other.

    ⦁ Once you’ve got your grinder, it’s time to get yourself ready. A little bit of lube can go a long way in making sure everything feels great. Then, get into the perfect position, whether that’s between your legs or against a flat or curved surface. A lot of people strap their grinders to a pillow or folded up blanket. If your grinder doesn’t give you that option, some people put their grinders on the arm rest of a couch.

    ⦁ Now it’s time to turn up the heat! Start with a gentle vibration (or pressure) and work your way up to more intense sensations. Take your time and enjoy the ride. Experiment with different levels or pressure, or different angles. Allow yourself to really explore and feel the depth of the experience as a whole. You’ll find that the more you allow yourself to be present with your body and the experience, you’ll explore new ways to heighten your sensations.

    ⦁ And don’t forget to clean up afterwards! Just a quick wash with plant-based soap and dry will have your grinder ready for your next adventure.

     

    Allow yourself to really explore and feel the depth of the experience as a whole. You’ll find that the more you allow yourself to be present with your body and the experience, the more you experiment and practice,  you’ll explore new ways to heighten your sensations.

     

    The Final Word

    In conclusion, grinders and grinder rings are fantastic sex toys that offer unique sensations and endless possibilities for sexual exploration.

     

    Whether you’re looking for solo pleasure or partner play, grinder sex toys can add dimension and take your sexual experiences to a whole new level. Regardless of whether or not grinders come highly recommend, the experience will always be a personal one. We know very well that what works for one might not work for the other. With that being said, prioritize your comfort, but also allow for sexual exploration — you might find yourself experiencing a whole new realm of pleasure. With a wide range of sizes, shapes, and materials available, there’s a perfect grinder or grinder ring out there with your name on it!

     

    Give grinders a try and see what you can unlock.

  • How To Clean Your Sex Toys

    Whether you’re a dildo connoisseur, or just dipping your toes into the realm of sex toys for the first time, keeping your sexy toys squeaky clean is non-negotiable. After every use – yep, every single use. It’s kind of like picking up your dog’s poop! It’s part of being responsible, for you and anyone else involved.

    So cleaning your sex toys might seem like a no-brainer, and for the most part it is – but let me hit you with some crucial recommendations to ensure optimal hygiene and longevity. First and foremost, let’s start with an important question – are your toys porous or non-porous? Porous toys would be TPR/TPE, Elastomer, PVC, Jelly, rubber, vinyl and cyberskin. Non-porous toys would be silicone, glass and stainless steel. We recommend against porous toys because bacteria, fungus and mildew will make your toys it’s new home no matter how much you clean and/or sanitize them. And no, simply washing the surface of your sex toy won’t be enough – these microorganisms have the capability to penetrate deep into the core of your toy. So… why take the risk?

    Preparation

    You’re going to want a bucket filled with hot water, and mild plant-based antibacterial soap. Some people opt for sex toy cleaners – do approach this with caution. Do your due diligence and read the ingredients to make sure it’s all the good stuff – water-based, paraben and sulfate free and all natural. You want products that have been vetted time and time again.

    Washing

    Simple Method

    There’s multiple ways to approach cleaning your toys, but the golden rule is to “keep it simple, stupid”. Fill a bucket with some hot water and mild plant-based antibacterial soap, and wash your toys for a minimum of 20 seconds. Some even prefer using a soft-bristled brush, especially if you have textured sex toys like these grinders. This is the cheapest and most effective option, but some people like to use sex toy cleaners – again – approach this with caution. Do not throw your motorized toy into the bucket.

    Dishwasher

    Did you know you could also use the dishwasher to clean your sex toys? If you go down this route – do not use dish-washing detergent. Always use non-toxic plant-based natural soap. This method only works with non-motorized toys; silicone, glass, and stainless steel, so do keep that in mind.

    UV Light

    Using a UV light to sanitize sex toys has gained some popularity over the last few years — where light penetrates through your toy and has the ability to damage the genetic material (RNA) of microorganisms including viruses and bacteria. When the genetic material is damaged, the microorganisms are unable to replicate or reproduce, rendering them non-infectious. However, while it has gained popularity there is also some controversy that comes with it, as always, do your own research!

    Deep Clean

    Give your non-motorized sex toys a deep clean by boiling them for a few minutes. Keep in mind that while this does kill bacteria or viruses, it doesn’t necessarily clean them of bodily fluids and such. Before deep cleaning, make sure to bathe them in hot water with mild anti-bacterial plant-based soap.

    Drying

    Drying your sex toys post-cleaning is king — preventing mold and extending its longevity. Believe it or not, your toys can get moldy. Even platinum-grade silicone can get moldy if you slack on the drying process. Use a paper towel or clean cloth to make sure those toys are bone dry!

    Storage

    After you’ve nailed the cleaning and drying routine, don’t just chuck your toys in a drawer. They’re magnets for dust and dirt, and when it’s go time, it’s go time. You won’t be thrilled about spending another 15 minutes on another clean-up mission. Use the case your toy came in, or invest in a sealed storage container.

    So, whether you’re a solo rider or spicing it up with partner play, the importance of cleaning, thoroughly drying and securely storing your sex toys cannot be overstated. Your body deserves the best treatment, and part of that is making sure your toys are in tip-top shape. Regular cleaning doesn’t just keep things hygienic; it also saves you from any nasty surprises down the road. Plus, sex toys aren’t pocket change, so who wouldn’t want their favorite toys sticking around for the long haul? You will thank yourself later for all that extra TLC.

  • How Old Do You Have To Be To Buy Sex Toys?

    The time has come. You’re ready to start exploring your sexuality and after doing tons of research you found the one — the pink tentacle toy with the marbled aesthetic… but wait- how old do you have to be to buy sex toys?

    Well, let’s cut to the chase because time is precious — in the United States there is no federal law that prohibits the purchase of sex toys limited to any age, however the general consensus is the legal age of 18. While there is no federal law, each individual state has it’s own laws in regards to age requirements, ranging from the ages of 18 to 21 years old.

    The Legal Age Varies

    The legal age to purchase sex toys ranges from 18-21 in the 50 states. Outside of the United States, the general consensus seems to range from 18 to 21 years of age, however, there are a few countries where the import, sale, distribution, and/or possession of sex toys is illegal. Some also do have strict laws on pornography, which could apply by extension to sex toys as they may fall under “pornographic materials”.

    Disclaimer: Please note these are general guidelines, and there may be local variations or changes in laws. We advise you re-verify the information from official state resources or consult with legal professionals for the most updated and accurate details.

    However, as of 6/25/2024, these are the laws for each individual state:

    Alaska, Arizona, Arkansas, California, Colorado, Connecticut, Delaware, Florida, Georgia, Hawai’i, Idaho, Illinois, Indiana, Iowa, Kansas, Kentucky, Louisana, Maine, Maryland, Massachusetts, Michigan, Minnesota, Montana, Nebraska, Nevada, New Hampshire, New Jersey, New Mexico, New York, North Carolina, North Dakota, Ohio, Oklahoma, Oregon, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, South Carolina, South Dakota, Tennessee, Utah, Vermont, Virginia, Washington, West Virginia, Wisconsin and Wyoming

    The legal age limit to purchase sex toys in these states is 18.

    Alabama

    Dildo’s are looking like a dildon’t in Alabama. Alabama’s Anti-Obscenity Enforcement Act bans the sale of sex toys, but not the possession. However, it seems a lot of businesses override this law by selling toys as “novelties” and “massagers”. As for the legal age, the magic number is 21.

    Mississippi

    The legal age limit to buy sex toys in Mississippi is 21.

    Texas

    The legal age limit to buy sex toys in Texas is 21.

    Legality of Sex Toys In Different Countries

    It may be beneficial to read about the pornography laws by region here as this information tends to correlate with other laws pertaining to sex.

    Maldives

    The production, sale, possession, or distribution of sex toys is illegal as it is considered to be “pornographic material”.

    Mauritius

    It is prohibited to bring sex toys into the country for sale without clearance, however, there’s no law explicitly prohibiting possession for personal use.

    Kuwait, United Arab Emirates, Saudi Arabia, Iraq, Iran, Morocco, Pakistan, Bahrain

    Sex toys fall under “pornographic material” and are illegal and banned under Islamic law.

    Vietnam, Thailand, Malaysia, Indonesia and Cambodia

    The production, sale, possession,  and distribution of sex toys are illegal, as it’s considered “obscene material”. Enforcement varies country to country.

    India

    This one’s tricky. The Indian Penal Code states any material is deemed obscene if it is excessively lewd, designed to appeal to inappropriate sexual interests, or if its overall impact is likely to cause some form of corruption upon someone. In this case, import, production, sale, distribution or possession is illegal.

    Bangladesh

    The “Pornography Control Act” prohibits the use, sale, and marketing of sex toys.

    There you have it. Whether you’re eyeing up a toy in the Yellowhammer State or curious about its legality in Saudi sands, the world of sex toys is a mix of legal nuances and cultural norms. Some places have strict bans while others are more open-minded. What you can purchase, and when, and where really depends on your location. Wherever your curiosity takes you, be sure to understand local laws before making your move. Happy exploring!

  • How to Store Your Sex Toys: Pleasure with Panache

     

    Guest Blogger: Buzzing Babe

    Hello, babes! Let’s talk about a topic that’s as essential as it is titillating—how to store your sex toys. Imagine being in the heat of the moment, reaching for your favorite toy, only to find it’s buried under a pile of mismatched socks. Babe, your pleasure tools deserve better. Think of them more like the jewels they are, deserving of a storage solution that’s chic and stylish. 

    Elegant Storage Solutions for Your Sex Toys

    First, let’s address the elephant in the boudoir: discretion. Whether you live alone, with a partner, or in a bustling household, keeping your toys tucked away is a good idea. Not because they’re shameful—never that!—but because privacy is the ultimate luxury. We all deserve a little mystery, don’t we?

    Handmade Adult Boxes

     

    Photo Credit: Spicerack Market

    Imagine having a small, elegant box lined with silk where each of your toys have a home. Think of it as your stylish secret. Choose something both beautiful and well crafted, like the handmade options from Royal Tabula. Their lockable adult toy boxes are designed to be practical but are also crafted with care. Perfect for keeping your toys within reach but never out in the open, these boxes add an extra layer of luxury to your intimate space. When you open it, it feels more thrilling, with each toy waiting to bring you a nice buzz.

    Another great option is the Lockable Adult Toy Box from OpenMity. This box would be an excellent choice for anyone who wants dividers in their bedroom repertoire. It is hand-made with care, and even has an integrated code lock so you won’t have to remember where you hid the key. 

    Think about how satisfying it is to open a drawer and see everything perfectly organized. That’s the same feeling you’ll get every time you reach for your chest. It’s a little luxury moment waiting just for you.

    Custom Drawers: Your DIY Storage Solution

    If you’re into DIY, custom drawers are your go-to for keeping your vibrators and goodies organized. Imagine popping open a drawer and having each toy, lube, and battery neatly sorted in its own spot.

    Setting up custom drawers is simpler than you might think. Just use dividers or trays to keep everything tidy. This way, you can grab what you want without rummaging through a mess. It not only keeps things handy but also adds a touch of class to your setup.

    Private storage isn’t just about function—it’s about practicality as well. You want your toys ready for some fun when you are, but discreetly stashed away the rest of the time. With a bit of DIY flair, you can turn organizing your vibrators into a spicy and private affair that amps up your bedroom vibe.

    Storing Sex Toys with Different Materials

    So, how might you store your pleasure tools when they come in such different shapes and sizes? Let’s break it down.

    The Dazzling Dildo

     

    First up, we have the dildo—classic, reliable, and oh-so-pleasurable. Dildos come in different materials like silicone, glass, or even stainless steel. Each material needs slightly different care to keep in tip top shape.

    Silicone: Silicone dildos are flexible and body-safe, making them a popular choice. Store them in a cool, dry place away from direct sunlight and extreme temperatures. A soft cloth bag or dedicated chest will do the trick to keep them safe from dust and scratches.

    Glass: If you prefer something more luxurious, glass dildos are the way to go. Their smooth surface and non-porous nature make them easy to clean and maintain. Store them in a padded pouch or chest to prevent chipping or cracking.

    Metal: For those who crave a bit of weight and cool sensation, stainless steel dildos are a dream. These bad boys are non-porous and durable. A plush velvet bag or satin-lined box keeps them protected and adds a touch of chic to your storage solution.

    The Vibrant Vibrator

     

    Now, onto vibrators—the buzzing stars of the bedroom. Vibrators come in so many different shapes, from egg vibrators all the way to rabbits. Here’s how to keep them at their best:

    Battery Operated: If your vibrator runs on batteries, always remove them before storage to prevent leaks. Store them in a case or pouch to keep them dust-free and ready for action.

    Toys with Remotes: Toys with remotes add an extra layer of excitement to your playtime, but they require careful storage to keep everything together. Store both the vibrator and its remote in the same case or pouch. This will make it so you never have to search for one without the other when the mood hits. Choose a case with compartments or pouches designed to hold both items. 

    Rechargeable Toys: Rechargeable vibrators are eco-friendly and convenient, but they require a different kind of TLC. Keep them charged and store them in a cool, dry place to help them keep their battery life. A sleek travel case or velvet-lined drawer adds a touch of sophistication while protecting your vibe.
    Whether you’re a dildo devotee or a vibrator vixen, proper storage is key. If you are curious which toys you would prefer, read about the difference between dildos vs. vibrators which offers some spicy advice! 

    How to Store your Sex Toys with Cleanliness and Care

    No one likes a dirty little secret, especially not when it comes to your sex toys. Hygiene is non-negotiable. Clean them after each use and before storing them away.

    Soap and Water: Most sex toys can be cleaned with warm soap and water. Make sure to do this after use every time to keep them in good shape. 

    Anti-Bacterial Toy Cleaner: Invest in a good quality anti-bacterial toy cleaner. Remember, clean toys are happy toys. Making sure to choose sex toys that aren’t porous is crucial for cleaning. I go into more detail about this in my post Vibrator Types For Every Desire.

    Climate Control: Keeping Your Toys Cool

    Much like fine wine, your sex toys need to be stored in the right environment. Extreme temperatures can damage the material, which can make them not work as well. 

    Cool and Dry Places: Store your toys in a cool, dry place. Avoid areas with high humidity, like bathrooms, which can cause mold and bacteria growth. A drawer in your bedroom or a dedicated box under your bed works perfectly.
    Avoid Sunlight: Direct sunlight can degrade your toys, especially if made from silicone or rubber.

    How to Store your Sex Toys when Traveling

    For the globetrotting sex goddess, traveling with your toys requires a bit of finesse. You wouldn’t toss your valuables in a carry-on without proper protection, and the same goes for your toys.

    Travel Cases: Invest in a sleek, private travel case. There are options made specifically for sex toys, with compartments for different items and a lock for added security. It’s the perfect blend of style and discretion.

    Batteries Out: Always remove the batteries before packing your toys. It will make it so there are no accidental turn-ons that could lead to awkward airport security moments (eek!). For rechargeable toys, make sure they’re fully charged before you jet off.

    The Art and Display of Your Sex Toys

     

    For the bold and the beautiful who view their toys as art, a private display can be as arousing as the toys themselves.

    Shadow Boxes: Create a seductive display with shadow boxes. Arrange your toys artfully behind glass, turning your collection into an exhibition. It will definitely be a conversation starter for those intimate soirées.

    Bedside Décor: Mix your toys into your bedroom décor. Use vases or stylish bowls to hold smaller items like bullet vibrators or ben wa balls. It’s playful, chic, and always ready for spontaneous fun. Make sure they are cleaned regularly though if you go for this route, since they will be exposed to dust. 

    So, there you have it, babes. A stylish guide about storing your sex toys, making sure they’re always ready for your next session. Remember, a well-organized sex life is a satisfying sex life. Here’s to pleasure, privacy, and a dash of pizzazz in every drawer. Cheers to you and your collection of treasures!

     

  • The Pros and Cons for Couples in Introducing a Sex Machine into the Bedroom

    Guest Blogger: Tigerlily

    A sex machine—also known as a fucking machine—is the ultimate sex toy: an automatic thrusting dildo that never gets tired. As a couple, it’s a brilliant way to take your play time to the next level, opening up a huge range of possibilities with a robotic cock. 

    Depending on which model you buy, they’ll have adjustable speeds, built-in patterns, interchangeable accessories, and maybe even an accompanying app. 

    But if you still need convincing, here are all the benefits it can bring you—along with a few drawbacks to consider.

    Who Am I and Why Should You Trust Me?

    I’m Tigerlily, and I run SexToyDB.com. My passion is technology—whether that’s the best fucking machines that can be programmed with a smartphone, to automated masturbators that sync up to on-screen video action, or remote control toys for long-distance partners. It’s never been a more exciting time to be horny and let a machine take over the task of pleasuring you. 

    The Benefits of a Sex Machine

    Enhanced Pleasure and Variety

    A fucking machine can enhance your sexual experiences and provide all new types of stimulation; it might even help you discover positions you hadn’t tried before or didn’t know you’d enjoy so much. While a sex machine broadly tries to emulate the act of penetration, it also offers a different type of stimulation that’s difficult to achieve manually or with another human. After all, a human cock generally isn’t measured in torque thrusting power and RPMs. 

    Especially for guys, the type of stimulation that can achieve the hallowed anal P-gasm is a lot easier with a machine to help.

    Safe Experimentation

    Ever fantasized about a threesome with another guy, but acknowledged the reality might be incredibly awkward and potentially dangerous? We’ve all been there. 

    A fucking machine means you can explore your fantasy in a completely safe environment. “Spit roast” or “DP” are both possible with a machine lover, and with such a huge range of accessories, you’re sure to find your exact preference of cock. If you have a favorite dildo already, chances are it can be attached to a sex machine easily.

    Hands-Free Fun

    With a sex machine to help, one partner can enjoy penetrative stimulation without needing to hold the device, allowing both partners to focus on other forms of intimacy, such as touching, kissing, or oral sex. 

    One thing to look out for when choosing a machine for this sort of sexual experimentation is how adjustable the positions are. Cheaper machines lie flat on the floor or bed with no angle or height adjustment. Others like the HiSmith Premium or Lovense Sex Machine have around 40cm of height range, with independent adjustment at the front and rear legs to achieve some pretty extreme angles—making all kinds of positions possible.

    Some HiSmith machines can even be used completely vertically (though you’ll need to cover the sensitive mechanisms so they don’t get wet).

    Role Reversal and Submission

    A strap-on is a fun way for couples to reverse the usual playtime and a great starting point for couples to explore anal fun. But some will find they’re not that good at it (thrusting your hips can be quite hard!), or just don’t enjoy the one-sided play style.

    You might prefer for him to be penetrated while your hands are free to wander and tease them in other ways; or perhaps you’d like him to you at the same time with his tongue. A fucking machine is great for this: let it handle the penetration. Some machines even offer a smartphone app, so you can stay in control to reward, punish, or tease! 

    It Never Gets Tired

    While nothing compares to actual sex, if you’re no longer able to keep going as long as you’d like to pleasure your partner, a sex machine is your perfect wingman. Let the machine take over while you have a break, or move to other forms of stimulation.

    Sexual Autonomy and Fulfilling Needs

    Using a sex machine can help you understand your own sexual responses better, building confidence to express your desires and preferences within your relationship. 

    If your sexual relationship is imbalanced, with one of your wanting more sex than the other is able or willing to provide, a sex machine is a perfectly safe and healthy way to fulfill those needs without leaving the confines of your bedroom. It’s natural for the sexual drive of a couple to not be in sync at all times, but that doesn’t mean you have to just not be fulfilled. While some partners might be okay with you looking elsewhere to fulfill that need, others will be better served by a sex machine—a tool that’s free of emotional bonds (and STD risks!)

    The Drawbacks

    Insecurity

    For some guys, the very thought of their partner using a dildo can be too much to bear. If you recognize that in your relationship, you’ll definitely need to work on the basics before even considering a machine lover to enhance your playtime. Your partner may feel inadequate, so it’s important to discuss the benefits it’ll bring to your relationship, and that he treat the machine as a wingman, not a competitor. 

    Remember: communication and honesty is the key to any relationship, and even more so when it comes to sex. Don’t buy a fucking machine and try to keep it hidden or secret from your partner; it’s possible they’ll consider it the equivalent of cheating. It’s important to make sure both of you are on board with the idea.

    Hiding It

    We aren’t all lucky enough to have a spare room or basement we can turn into a sex room, and it’s a lot harder to hide a 10kg sex machine, even if it can be deconstructed. The HiSmith Premium collapses to the size of a small, rectangular duffel bag, which can then fit under your bed or at the bottom of your closet. Assuming you already have somewhere to keep your dildos away from prying eyes, it should be a problem you can overcome.

    Of course, while it only takes 5-10 minutes to reconstruct, you might want to leave it up for quick use at any time—and that’ll be a lot harder to hide.

    Noise

    Noise levels in the bedroom from a fucking machine can vary greatly, but not for the reasons you’d think. The reciprocating motor that drives the thrusting is usually quiet as long it’s kept lubricated; it could easily be masked by some background music. 

    However, depending on how you’ve positioned and secured your machine, and how tightly you clench during the thrusts, you may find the machine rocks back and forth. If you live in an apartment block, your downstairs neighbors will hear something not unlike rigorous sex if you’ve placed it on the floor. Using it on the bed can help mitigate this, but you‘ll also need to consider weighing down the legs with sandbags, or securing the feet to a piece of wooden board.

    But your biggest worry should be your screams as you orgasm in ways you never thought possible (I’m deadly serious; this is an actual problem). Now might be a good time to invest in a decent ball gag.

    Over-reliance on a Machine

    Nothing compares to a machine fuck—just as nothing compares to a real cock. But it’s possible you’ll prefer the machine, and you’ll need to be conscious of that. If you suspect that’s the case, make an effort to reconnect with your partner. Put away the machine and schedule some couple time!

    Should You Get a Sex Machine?

    A quality sex machine is going to set you back around $500 to $1000, which is a sizeable investment. However, a decent one will last a decade or more when maintained correctly. But isn’t it curious that we wouldn’t think twice about spending that much on a TV, yet we shudder at the thought of spending it to improve our sex lives? That’ll be our deeply ingrained societal taboos around sex or adult “toys”. Perhaps we should start calling them sexual wellness tools instead. When it comes to a robotic thrusting machine, the sense of shame runs even deeper—what sort of sexual deviant needs a robotic cock?! 

    As a couple, it goes without saying that you’ll both need to be on board with the idea. A sex machine generally isn’t considered a “my first sex toy” that you can whip out like a pair of handcuffs and be all “lets try this tonight babe”. 

    But if you do decide your relationship can handle a sex machine, I promise you won’t be disappointed by the limitless opportunities it brings to the bedroom.